Monday, September 29, 2008
Teach Them While Their Hearts Are Tender
When my son (now almost 30) was little, we used to visit nursing homes and spend time with the “old folks.” When his grandmother came to live with us, he was well-prepared to interact with her despite the fact that she was 77 years older than he. With my subsequent children, we maintained regular visits to nursing and retirement homes visiting with the residents and performing for them. When my own father (now 97) went into a nursing facility over eight years ago, the girls were more than ready and willing to give a command performance.
Early on, each of my children understood the reality and travesty of legalized abortion. My husband and I felt it imperative that they understood how violently God’s Word was being violated and we engaged them in activities geared toward eradicating the heinous procedure. They participated in a pro-life group we started called Kids for Life which produced a monthly newsletter that was sent around the country and placed in businesses. They took part in abortion protests and life chains and helped prepare mailings for various pro-life groups. We conducted garage sales to raise money for the local pregnancy centers and washed and ironed donated baby clothes. We even produced a pro-life music video that we donated to pregnancy centers around the country. My son, at the age of ten, raised a considerable amount of money for a Walk for Life. He relentlessly approached family, friends, and neighbors to donate to the cause and sponsor him. He was quite zealous, and eventually was told to “cease and desist” when he wanted to cold-call the phone book for donors!
Now as a business owner, husband, and father of two, those priorities and causes that were a part of his childhood have remained into adulthood. Not only does he generously sponsor his younger sister in similar pro-life walks, he has sponsored entire fund-raising dinners to help the Community Pregnancy Centers that were so much a part of his growing up years – a testimony to cultivating the tender heart of a child.
To quote my good friend and songwriter Judy Rogers:
Teach me while my heart is tender
Tell me all that I should know
And even through the years I will remember
No matter where I go.*
(from the song: Why Can't I See God)
Preparing for the Long-Haul
Many homeschooling families allow their students to take college classes (either online or at a local community college) to broaden their educational experience. It is not unusual for these students to finish high school and two years of college at the same time. Twelve years of high school is really not written in stone. In fact, I’ve learned that the twelfth grade was added during the Depression to keep young people out of the job market. A quick perusal of much of America’s history shows that our present culture extends immaturity well beyond what our forebears did.
The job of the homeschooling teacher is not over once children embark on this path outside the home. Quite the contrary. It is important that you set aside time to discuss with your child attitudes and perspectives generated from their textbooks and class discussions and understand how they fit into a Biblical worldview. Your role moves from teacher to mentor. Allowing your child to “download” his experiences will be helpful and informative for both of you.
Unfortunately, too many parents are ill-equipped to enter into discussions with their students because they have limited exposure or experience discussing various subjects from a Biblical perspective. How will you counter Marxist economic theories, or revisionist history, or scientific abstractions that posit a world without the Living God? That’s why homeschooling parents need to engage in continuing education while they are educating their children. I know time is tight and many items on your “to do list” aren’t getting accomplished. But, this aspect is vital if you’re going to continue to help your children prepare for their callings under God.
The Chalcedon Teacher Training Institute is currently in its pilot stage. It is designed to help homeschooling parents get the philosophical and theological underpinnings for their God-ordained task. If you are interested in exploring this avenue, contact me @ lessons.learned@yahoo.com.
Friday, September 26, 2008
Using His Celebrity
The Catholic News Agency carried the story of this video, produced in Spanish, to encourage Hispanics to work to end abortion and thwart the radical agenda of that presidential candidate who can’t even say when life begins. The CNA included an abridged version of his appeal. However, the video that should be spread far and wide comes in the middle of the full video Dura Realidad, which shows graphic images from real abortions and the unmistakable humanity of those slaughtered. The Mexican actor explains that just as teachers in schools show videos of the Holocaust to expose the truth about the atrocities committed by the Nazis, he too is including the video to show the horror of abortion.
To be sure, this video is not for the squeamish. However, it should be utilized by all of us to confront those who “sit on the fence” and have convinced themselves that abortion is not a watershed issue. May God be pleased to prosper the work of Eduardo Verástegui, a very courageous man, who puts principle over his celebrity status.
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Living With a Zeal that Pleases Heaven
This past weekend, I had the pleasure of conducting an international Bible study making use of Skype technology with a group of ladies on three continents who are hungry and thirsty for God’s righteousness. Together we have purposed to storm the gates of hell from the worthy position God has given women to further His kingdom. It is such a blessing to interact with women who endeavor to live life to God’s glory, with a zeal that pleases Heaven!!
Interested in starting a similar group with ladies you know? Contact me at lessons.learned@yahoo.com.
Friday, September 19, 2008
Ask the Beasts and They Shall Teach Thee
Yesterday, my husband, daughter, and I said goodbye to one such faithful teacher -- our golden retriever, Sierra. In many ways, Sierra was an integral part of my homeschool. Her presence was the springboard for teaching about discipline, training, service, and faithfulness. Although she started out with us as a puppy, all too quickly in “dog years” she joined me as one of the “older ladies” of the household. We grew gray together and witnessed my children grow up. She never shirked those duties entrusted to her.
Had my schedule been so full of other commitments and activities, I would not have been able to orchestrate a proper goodbye to Sierra. If I had not emphasized over the years that we must focus on family life over and above other activities, we might have had to “dispose” of Sierra, rather than give her the sort of memorial her years of service deserved.
It is easy to let our worth be determined by how much we do and how many people witness our achievements. Yet, such a focus delivers cheap rewards, rather than the lasting ones that bear fruit in this life and commendation in the next. Being available to deal with the ups and downs of life, and their aftermaths, is as important a function as any in the rearing of one’s family.
SIERRA
Golden Retriever Extraordinaire
(June 1995 – September 2008)
(Her full name was Sierra Sunrise, because of the countless early Sunday morning trips by car to Vallecito, located in the Sierra Foothills of California, in order to sit under the teaching of R.J. Rushdoony at the Chalcedon Foundation.)
Thursday, September 18, 2008
The Real World
My youngest is engaging in such activity at present. This is her third semester taking a few classes at the local junior college. All the years of training in doctrine, apologetics, history, and more are being tested as she sits through classes which posit rebellion in the name of relativism and pluralism. She comes home from her classes with much fodder for conversation and discussion. Years ago I chronicled some of her older brother’s experiences when he first encountered the anti-Christian biases of secular colleges, and shared them in my book Lessons Learned from Years of Homeschooling.
Now twelve years later, my youngest has many more tools in her arsenal to respond to the relativism and statism of the college scene. How glad I am she had the benefit of a full week this summer of pertinent lectures and discussion at the West Coast Worldview Conference jointly sponsored by Reformed Heritage Church and the Chalcedon Foundation. Her ability to discern the lies and deceptions presented in her college class lectures and textbooks has been greatly aided by learning from men like Mark Rushdoony, Joseph Morecraft, Gary DeMar, John Eidsmoe, and Ben Miller. I’ve had the chance to listen to many of the lectures in MP3 format while I do my regular workouts. I believe many will benefit from hearing the lectures that were presented at this conference. You can get MP3s of the lectures presented and find out more about next summer’s conference.
Additionally, the two classes she’s taking through Cornerstone Christian School Online are providing “real time” assistance as she wades through her Administration of Justice class. It seems that Greg Uttinger’s lectures address the very concepts that arise in class discussions. You can find out more about the school’s current offerings at the Cornerstone website.
If you would like to share other resources that would benefit homeschooling families, email me at lessons.learned@yahoo.com.
Saturday, September 13, 2008
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Friday, September 12, 2008
Learning from an Expert
Recently I had occasion to read the transcript of a January 1987 proceedings held in a Texas homeschooling challenge. It reads like a novel. Here are some excerpts from his cross examination by a Mr. Ball:
Then later on, this redirect examination by Mr. Sharpe:Q. Mr. Rushdoony, as I understand what you have said here by way of history that the colonial or frontier homeschool was one that was based on necessity, distances, transportation problems, that kind of thing.
A. No, because it goes back to the Biblical premise that the father is the instructor, the parents are; and the Book of Deuteronomy is addressed to parents in order to enable them to teach their children, and the Book of Proverbs is addressed to children in order to instruct them as to their duties towards their parents and society in general. The Biblical premise which has governed western civilization has always stressed the priority of the parental control of education.
Q. Were you giving us this history in order to show that there is some connection between the home schooling of the frontier and colonial days based on the circumstances that existed at that time on the one hand and the home schooling of 1987 which appears to be based on a preference of some people on the other?
A. Home schooling has always had a Christian motivation, but there has been a difference since World War II in that with World War II two things happened. There was a decline in the quality of public education which alarmed parents.
Then second, during World War II we had a tremendous number of missionaries who were abroad, who had to return home because of the war. Those who failed to make it were, of course, interned in prisoner of war camps.
Now these families came home by the thousands, and they had been home schooling their children.One of the things that made an impact, and I recall them vividly, those days, was the fact that these children who had been homeschooled under the Calvert system and other systems, when they entered a grade in high school in this country found things almost childishly easy. They were so far advanced as far as their grade was concerned. They entered universities with a great deal of advantage because of their superior training.
Now, this made an impact on people. Why were these children so much better in their learning? And that created a favorable attitude towards home schooling, so that as the decline of public education set in after World War II parents were ready to turn to home schools, and especially in the 70s the movement took off at a dramatic rate of speed.
Q. With respect to orthodox Christian beliefs, based on your educational background, your bachelor’s degree in Divinity, plus your years of service as a missionary, are you familiar with the orthodox Christian teachings as they relate to the responsibility of the parents to the children concerning education.
A. I am.
Q. Would you tell the court what those responsibilities are?
A. The parent is responsible to God to rear his child in the fear and admonition of the Lord, to cite the precept of Proverbs. According to the summary of the Old Testament made by the rabbis, a father who did not teach his children to read the Torah, in other words the basic skills, and a trade with his hands, taught his child to be a thief. As a result, going back to pre-Christian eras, Israel was the only nation in the world with literacy among the ordinary people.
At the time of Christ the synagogue schools covered the land of Judea, Galilee and the diaspora. Wherever Jews were, the synagogue schools prevailed. This was the pattern in the early church which was first known as a Christian synagogue, and according to patristic literature they began immediately to imitate the pattern even to the offices, the office of elder, the office teacher, and so on.
This was revived very strongly by the Puritans especially in this country and set the pattern of parental responsibility, to teach the child the basic skills so that they could become fully literate and to teach them how to work.
This is why we were unequaled among the nations of the world in the high rate of literacy long before there was a compulsory education law.
The Federalist Papers were written for the most ignorant people in the United States, the upstate farmers of New York State who were predominantly Dutch speaking, and yet today college students have problems with the Federalist Papers. That’s the level of literacy that then prevailed.
Now, this literacy combined with the Puritan work ethic made possible the development of this country…
So this perspective of literacy plus a work ethic was the basic educational drive from the early years of this republic, and the main rebellion against this has come since World War II…
This public domain court transcript is available. If you would like to read it, email lessons.learned@yahoo.com
Monday, September 8, 2008
Looking Well to the Ways of Our Households
A man in our area was considering making a bid for city council. Someone recommended me to him as a person who was articulate, well-organized, and potentially a huge asset to his campaign. I remember getting ready for the meeting where I was certain to be offered the job of campaign manager. I got my most professional looking outfit and made sure it was pressed and ready to go. Because my son was only nine, I didn’t feel comfortable leaving him to watch his sister and have the responsibility of dealing with his grandmother, should she have an emergency. So, I hired a babysitter. The kids had been fed, Grandma was happy and content in her room, the babysitter arrived, and I was off.
During the meeting I was given the details of what my job would entail and was guaranteed that if the candidate won the election, I would be in charge of his district office. Needless to say, this often harried housewife was flattered and sincerely tempted to answer “yes.” I told them I’d get back to them.
On the way home, I pictured how I could pull this off. I could give my son his homeschooling assignments in the morning, hire a babysitter for the times I couldn’t be at home, and make the whole thing work. After all, wasn’t this a marvelous way for a Christian (and an orthodox, dominion oriented one at that) to make significant inroads into the political system? I was jazzed that I was going to make a difference for the Lord!
When I arrived at home, the house was in a tizzy. The babysitter had gotten into a tiff with my son and my mother-in-law was less than happy about how the evening had gone. My daughter was crying and my son was irritated. I piled the kids into the car with me as I took the babysitter home. On the way I realized the empty light (which I had been ignoring) needed to be dealt with. I stopped at a gas station, filled the tank, and drove the babysitter home. When she got out of the car, she informed me that I had not replaced the gas cap. I dashed back to the gas station only to find the cap missing. When I got home, I was irritated with the kids and sent them off to bed. I sat down, realizing I never had eaten dinner myself, when my husband called and asked me how my meeting had gone.
Needless to say, I didn’t take the job. Why? Because I already had a job, and to take the offered job as campaign manager meant I would have had to abandon my role as mother and wife or give it to someone else. As enticing as the prospect of being a professional, political woman was, I believe I chose the better way. Who knows, twenty years later I might have been able to wow the country with my articulate, well-organized achievements in public service at a national convention. But I’m not sure I would have passed the Proverbs 31 test for the virtuous woman who looks well to the ways of her household. Instead of having the praise of men, I find that the praise that comes from my husband and children exceeds the cheers from a roaring crowd or an adoring fan base.
The blessings of the Christian wife and mother involve serving in the background, helping her husband, rearing her children, and fearing the Lord so that the ultimate vote of Well done good and faithful servant will be the winning slogan of her life.
Saturday, September 6, 2008
Only God Can Make A Tree
Time has a good deal to do with testimony; time enters very subtly into all things human and mundane. Men may make a ladder in a very short time, but who can make a tree? – and how constantly we are mistaking a tree for a ladder, or a ladder for a tree! Time makes the tree; time makes character; time makes practical theology.*Rushdoony goes on to comment, "We sometimes forget this factor of time, of history, as we work with our children."**
To all Christian parents, and to those homeschooling particularly, we must view our endeavor from heaven's eyes, patiently laboring as our saplings mature into the trees God intends.
*Joseph Parker, The People’s Bible, vol. 4, Numbers 27 – Deuteronomy (New York. NY: Funk & Wagnealls, n.d.), 85.
**RJ Rushdoony, Deuteronomy (Vallecito, CA: Ross House Books, 2008), 24.
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
Contagious as the Flu
The more that Christian women embrace the Proverbs 31 model, the more their light will shine as a living witness to the high calling of wife and mother. Their faithfulness will serve to demonstrate to those who have bought into the lie that only a professional career validates women, that the really important work is the preparation and rearing of the next generation, thereby building the Kingdom of God.
Those of us who have travelled this road for decades and those who are just starting out can continue to challenge the distorted views of women in our culture and provide inspiration to the many young ladies who are making choices for their future. In short, we need to be as contagious as the flu, entering into the lives of those around us, not for harm, but to demonstrate that obedience regarding looking well to the ways of our households has benefits that supersede our individual lives.
If you’d like to explore this mentoring program write me at lessons.learned@yahoo.com.
Monday, September 1, 2008
When the Righteous Are in Authority
Understanding this verse depends on a correct understanding of the word righteous. Clearly it is used contrasted with the word wicked. If we trivialize the meaning of either word, we lose the sense of the passage entirely.
Righteousness is not niceness, friendliness, politeness, optimism, or other congenial traits. Righteousness is synonymous with the word justice. So from the biblical definition, righteousness encompasses the perfect justice of God's law and grace.
Wickedness is not meanness, grumpiness, rudeness, pessimism or other Scrooge-like traits. Wickedness is that which is contrary to God's holy order, rule, and law.
Thus, teaching one's children to love and serve the Lord is righteous, and obliterating a life in the womb is wicked.
Since we can never escape being under authority, it is vitally important for parents to carefully select those whom they place in authority over their children. I used a rule of thumb when my children were very little. I would never place them in the care of someone unless I was comfortable with that person caring for them long-term, if I for some reason I did not return. Because in my absence, I was delegating authority, I wanted to ensure that my children would have true cause to rejoice over righteous authority, rather than to mourn because of wicked authority.
In the long run, ensuring that children are trained and educated by those who fit the biblical definition of righteousness will be profitable in producing adults who will reason and rule from a biblical mindset. Then, rather than lament the condition of our society and culture, we will rejoice when God's law-word is the accepted standard by which good and bad are defined.
Who is in authority over your children?